Who to become?

“I am so bored…” or the opposite of wanting to do so many things at the same time is (sadly) the reality that we currently live in. It’s about effectiveness and results. Very few people actually stand still during an activity to observe what they are currently doing. We’re on auto-pilot.

I want to discuss why I think that having a mindful approach on everyday activities makes them less dull and in the long run improving yourself.

Effectiveness and results

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” — Steven Furtick

In the end, we are all guilty of making this exact comparison and thus giving value to maybe looks or certain characteristics of a person, but what is the connection between this quotation and the ‘problem’ I want to discuss?

Well, most people are raised to value results, this already begins when parents ask their child what they want to be when they grow older. This is not necessarily a bad thing, although I think that raising a child to enjoy the process of going to school, learning and socialising is much likely better for their development.

To correlate this back to the quotation again — We compare our thoughts  and intentions to other people’s words and actions, as a result of this some people might get anxiety problems, because they lack self-esteem.

We need to value the process and the intentions of the things we do and the things we think. I think we need to focus on who we’ve become, rather than what we’ve become.


I’m not talking auto-pilot in the literal sense here, because that would be simply amazing, no I’m talking about simply doing things without putting much thought into it. This makes, for instance, chores much more boring, because you don’t feel rewarded.

Breaking out of this ‘auto-pilot’ might sound like a dumb idea, because; why think when you practically can do without? Well, to start; it makes simple activities much more enjoyable and rewarding. It might even contradict your instinct, but breaking out of this ‘unconscious’ state is actually less tiring, because when we don’t recieve enough rewards for activities we feel tired.

To conclude…

I think that to be more relaxed people should try to break out of their normal way of thinking. Focus on who you want to be, start developing yourself in area’s you feel comfortable and stop comparing yourself to others.

Thanks for reading and I hope to be able to write an article on how to actually apply the previously mentioned ideas, in the near future!